How do you know if you’ve found the love of your life, or if you’re going to need therapy after this ends? Sometimes we don’t always see the tell tale signs of a bad relationship because we’re in love and stuff.
Here’s five important signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Control can, at times, be very obvious. Your partner’s needs, wants, and intentions can be very well articulated because they’re direct and don’t like misunderstandings.
– “Why aren’t you home?”
– “I don’t want you talking to them anymore”
– “I shouldn’t have to wait for you”
And other times the control is much more subtle. People who prey on others are masters at gaining control, and put a great deal of effort into masking their true intentions. They want it to look like it’s your idea, while they take great pleasure in pulling the relationship strings.
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Manipulation is a brutal, never ending game that toys with your emotions. What’s worse, manipulation doesn’t become apparent until you’re very much in love, and deep into the relationship.
Signs of Manipulation
– They twist your words to their benefit
– They say one thing, and do another
– Guilt is used as a strategy
– They use your insecurities against you
Past Relationship Drama
Bad relationship habits are very hard to break. Sometimes, things just don’t work out and you have a few bad breakups or a friendship will get ugly. But when your partner has issues with every past relationship, and every past friendship has ended badly it should send up red flags.
If you can’t find a single person who can say one nice thing about your partner, it means they’ve destroyed every intimate relationship they’ve ever had and something is fundamentally wrong with how they interact with people.
Sometimes we misinterpret passion and intensity, when what we’re really looking at is a big fat anger bomb waiting to explode. Losing your temper, and having arguments is pretty normal. Every friendship and relationship will have bouts of elevated stress.
When you’re with someone who makes a habit out of loud, irrational, and aggressive outbursts — pack your shit. It’s only a matter of time before all that anger and aggression is pointed in your direction.
Related: 10 things that causes divorce
The Blame Game
If you feel like you’re walking on egg shells, and no matter what you do it’s going to be criticized you might be stuck in the blame game.
We all know someone, maybe a friend or co-worker, who can’t accept responsibility and always blames someone else. It’s never their fault, right?
You can take a break, or walk away, from a friend or co-worker. But when you’re in a relationship with a blamer, there are no breaks. This can lead to increased insecurity, and diminished self worth.
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